Though we live in the same apartment as before, we have to get acclimated again to the living conditions here – dust, noise, and when it rains, a lot of sticky mud. A new playground was put in near our apartment building, which is nice, but it is quite noisy during the day and into the evening.
Transportation – much more walking, crowded buses, crazy
drivers. I don’t mind walking more, but
the crowded buses in the summer really get to me. It’s always hotter on the bus, and there are
still plenty of people who do not wear deodorant!
Language - Russian and Ukrainian is everywhere, along with dried fish, but that is for another post! Thankfully we understand most of what is
said to us and we usually know how to answer.
We are currently looking for a new church where we will worship and
minister. This summer we are visiting
different churches. We usually need to
decide on Saturday evening where we will go so that on Sunday morning we leave in time to get
there. It will be nice once we make our
decision!
Visas and registration.
These are ongoing issues, not just for us, but all foreigners here. It has made planning beyond August of this
year very difficult.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord
Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in
all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any
affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 ESV
Ideas on how to adjust
-Give your family and
yourself room to make mistakes. We
tend to be perfectionists, wanting to appear to know the right thing to do and
then doing it. Admitting that we do not
know what to do in a certain situation just means that we are human! Give each other room to grow and when a
mistake happens, be understanding and give each other a hug!
-Take everything to
God and lean on Him in prayer. As ministry workers, we know this, but do we really do this? I know that I tend to want control, or at the
very least, would like to know what is going to happen! I need to just trust God, that He knows what
is best.
-Don’t isolate
yourself. I tend to want to
hibernate and keep to myself when I feel my adjustment phase is not going very
well. Sometimes it is better to get
around others who understand and are supportive,
as they may be dealing with some adjustments as well.
-Think of someone
else who may need encouragement.
This goes with not isolating yourself.
You may find that sharing your struggles encourages someone else who is
going through similar adjustments.
-Take care of your
needs for rest, good nutrition, exercise. If you are tired and run-down, the adjustment
phase will be harder to get through.
-Laugh! Watch a comedy or play a fun game if all
else fails. Sometimes it is good to laugh
at your mistakes, especially those wonderful language errors. J
There is also hope –
this adjustment phase will pass, and we will feel more at home here.
What are some adjustments or re-adjustments that you have had to
make? What has helped you to get through
the adjustment phases?
I'm Karen, serving with my family in Odessa, Ukraine. Please visit my blog at http://tryingtoclearmymuddledthoughts.blogspot.com/
So true about not isolating yourself. I tend to do that when I get overwhelmed. I guess it's a coping mechanism. I've found I have to be intentional about getting out and being with people, which isn't easy for an introvert! Thanks for sharing, Karen!
ReplyDeleteI am reading the book raising resilient mks and a lot of what you are saying is talked about in this book. Also finding a church home is never easy. Hope you have found something.
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